By: Gita Safitri Ilusi (Young Member of UKM-Bahasa FLAT)
Mentor: Kak Lili Samrotul Karimah
Culture is a comprehensive lifestyle. Culture has a complex nature, abstract, and broad. Various cultures contribute to communicative behavior in society.
One of that is like a culture that has been embedded society, especially with today’s teenagers that is a free promiscuity. Promiscuity is a negative behavior as an expression of rejection of the community, especially adolescents. Behavior that includes into the promiscuity is free sex or pre-marital sex. Free sex culture is found in teenagers around the world, especially in the western states of the United States. When compared with Indonesia, this habit is certainly different.
Promiscuity is often connoted with something negative like free sex, drugs, nightlife, and others. This term is adapted from western culture where people are free to do the above without fear of violating the norms that exist in western society. In contrast to the eastern culture that assumes all of that is taboo so promiscuity is rarely being spoken among society. Promiscuity has actually emerged since long time ago, only now it looks more severe and apprehensive. This teenage’s promiscuity can be triggered by increasingly sophisticated technology, cultural exchange, changing times, as well as global economic factors. Thus, in this essay I will discuss the comparison between promiscuity in America and Indonesia.
Indonesia is the fourth most populous country in the world and 86% of them are Muslims. Based on this fact, the Indonesian people still hold a lot of eastern cultures. One of the example is the culture of marriage and inter-course. If in Indonesia the inter-course is done after the wedding procession, in America which is part of the western countries, marital relationship can be done without requiring the procession of marriage. Because the United States embraces the principle of freedom. Especially in the relationship, which in doing a relationship is a human nature that is not bureaucratic arranged by the bureaucracy.
A real example of this promiscuity or free sex can be found in the lives of Hollywood stars, the super-intimate couple Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, who had a inter-course and lived together since 2005 and had 3 children before deciding to go on wedding in 2012. Another example is teenagers in the United States who imitate many of the social styles of adult filiments they watch. this is a form of “Curiosity” expression or a sense of wanting to gain a new experience. And parents of United American youth in addition to providing pocket money to their children, they also equip their children with condoms. This is to prevent pregnancy out of wedlock or avoid HIV/AIDS.
Unlike America, in Indonesia besides civil and religious law, there are also customs that limit the Indonesian people in dealing with the opposite sex. This is a shield or protector in order to avoid free sex before the wedding among Indonesian people, especially the youth of Indonesia. In addition, the role of parents also affect the relationship of teenagers in Indonesia. Parents are required to maintain good relationship with their children. A harmonious and loving family will make their child feel comfortable and loved. This is one factor that can prevent the free relationship among people, especially teenagers in Indonesia.
Among the above differences, due to the effects of globalization causing the culture of united states can not be denied entry into Indonesia, this causes the promiscuity culture that existed in the United States has become a pattern and participate in the culture among the people, especially Indonesian teenagers. Although not in accordance with the norms and teachings in Indonesia, promiscuity nowadays has become the lifestyle of adolescents in general. Promiscuity becomes a blurry portrait for today’s teenagers in Indonesia. Free sex, unwed pregnancy, abortion, rape, sexual harassment, pornographic VCD, pornography, and porno-action rampant among teenagers today. Such symptoms, apparently influenced by sexual exploitation in video clips, magazines, television and “adult” films. The appearance of sex in easily accessible media, led to teenagers’ assumption that sex is something free to do by anyone, anytime and anywhere, like the adult movies they watch. Adolescents adopt the style of life that comes from the spectacle, including about sex before marriage is considered a fairness.
The conclusion is promiscuity is no longer taboo among people especially among adolescents in this day and age. Not only in the United States which embraces western culture of freedom of association, even in Indonesia which is famous for its compliance with the rules and norms in the community is also infected with the culture of freedom from the western countries. Promiscuity results in great influence, both on our personal and our environment.
Therefore, I think we as teenagers must be convinced that the promiscuity only brings destruction for the future, family, community, and nation. It would be nice if we abstain from the promiscuity, we will live quietly and peacefully, we can also achieve the highest ideals with hard work and prayer without any obstacles, and of course we will create achievements that can boast of ourselves, people old, and Nation. Many things can be done if away from promiscuity, certainly a positive thing. So, from now we must be able to discern what is true and what is bad for our future.